tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20104226504569733662024-03-13T13:36:34.633-04:00Rachael MaddoxRachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.comBlogger195125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-69246769082294060192017-09-14T14:25:00.000-04:002017-09-14T14:25:03.064-04:00in my love apocalypse...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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in my love apocalypse, i stop seeking fame or fortune<br />
in my love apocalypse, i rest in faith and friends<br />
in my love apocalypse, i don't measure my worth in tallies of the masses<br />
in my love apocalypse, what counts is how alive my soul feels<br />
in my love apocalypse, i let go of the energy of <i>push push push</i><br />
in my love apocalypse,<i> </i>there is truly no reason to rush (except, when there truly is)<br />
in my love apocalypse, i stop giving myself away to dissociative experiences<br />
in my love apocalypse, i embrace a self love that's fearless<br />
in my love apocalypse, i nap way more often<br />
in my love apocalypse, i take way more baths<br />
in my love apocalypse, my business ins't about transactional winnings and losings<br />
in my love apocalypse, it's run on straightforward, relational negotiation<br />
in my love apocalypse, i'm brave enough to make art<br />
in my love apocalypse, i do it for the joy<br />
in my love apocalypse, i let my fear and fragility show<br />
in my love apocalypse, i trust that the truth is: i really know what's best for me<br />
in my love apocalypse, we all learn how to suffer better<br />
in my love apocalypse, we all learn how to dance freer<br />
in my love apocalypse, there's less heavy lifting<br />
in my love apocalypse, there's more trusting the mess<br />
in my love apocalypse, i unwind the notion of scarcity<br />
in my love apocalypse, spontaneity runs the show<br />
in my love apocalypse, we breathe in some sanity, and deactivate our drones<br />
in my love apocalypse, there's nowhere to get, nothing to be<br />
in my love apocalypse, everything is truly, truly the way it's meant to be<br />
in my love apocalypse, there's a new idea of holiness--one that lives inside us all--tap tap tap--we wait no longer<br />
in my love apocalypse, we learn to stay longer<br />
in my love apocalypse, my teachers are children, who haven't yet learned the rules<br />
in my love apocalypse, my teachers are elders, who've unleashed themselves from <i>shoulds</i><br />
in my love apocalypse, we are together and we know it, more than we ever thought we could<br />
in my love apocalypse, there's time to grieve the losses and dive all the way into what's good<br />
in my love apocalypse, we put down the guns we've held to our heads--the shame, the blame, the hate, the pressure<br />
in my love apocalypse, kindness is a worthy measure<br />
in my love apocalypse, we don't need reminders to breathe<br />
in my love apocalypse, there are places we can just be<br />
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what about you, friend? let's pretend friday is the end of the world as we know it. when i think about that, i can't help but break a smile. what are you letting go of? what ways do you dare to begin anew, truly?<br />
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i, for one, will be changing my business model (for real this time), and quitting social media (i just can't do it AND feel like i'm not putting on a show. not now).Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-70620566686806730672017-09-14T14:23:00.000-04:002017-09-14T14:23:38.209-04:00violence, truth, love... you know<br />
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With every ounce of suffering I'm experiencing, I feel like I'm growing entire limbs of empathy. I bought myself a slice of cake tonight. I don't even like cake. But I felt really rebellious and childlike buying it, and when you've had knots in your stomach and knives in your throat for 48 hours solid, cake matters.<br />
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Alexander is my heart music. Like, when I want to sway in my room and cry, he's the one. This song was the only thing that could loosen my ice-cold heart today. Half-lotioned, half-clothed, hair wet, (finally showered), I cranked this song as loud as it would go and let my stomach hang as free as possible. I felt like I was carrying a child of grief inside me. And I danced. Wailed for like, 7 seconds. Then finished getting dressed and left for work.<br />
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I came home and landed on my roommates' couch where two sweet hearts snuggled mine for a bit. And finally, I found words for all the sadness that's been welling up within me. They bumbled out through tears:<br />
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<i>Him caring more about having his desires met than my sense of safety or health... it's not just selfish, it's <b>violent</b>. </i><br />
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<i><b>Demand is truly the root of violence. "Or else" energy. Force, in order to get what you want. Tantrums, out lashes, threats, manipulative words... they're all pens of... violence.</b></i><br />
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<i><b>But when I remain voiceless or act powerless, that's its own form of violence, too. It's an internalized force; a contracting of self so that I'm more agreeable, and therefore, in my mind more lovable. Compliance is my contribution to the equation...</b></i><br />
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<i>Demand + Compliance = Violence </i><br />
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<i>It truly takes two.</i><br />
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<i>I'm going to talk to him, </i>I told them. One roommate responded, <i>I'm more lazy. I'd just kick him to the curb.</i><br />
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<i>But he's not an idiot, </i>I said.<i> He's not evil. He's just asleep. And I'm going to tell him what truly happens to me when he's so demanding. And also draw the line. Because I can't put myself through this shit. It's not healthy.</i><br />
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After which I stumbled into a rant on healing societal ills one person and relationship at a time. <br />
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<i>Maybe hurt is inevitable. Yes. Of course. Death happens. Tragedy happens. SHIT happens. But <b>mortality and violence are two different things</b>. Let's not pretend like they're the same damn thing.</i><br />
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<i>Violence is a symptom of societal ill. And yes, I'm sure society's always had its ills, but who are we to toss the towel in on healing? If not the whole fucking society, at least <b>ourselves?</b> Our families? Our relationships? The people we spend our waking hours with? The people we claim to love? </i><br />
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<i>Can we at least take on the practice of increasing compassion in our personal lives, and waking up to the ways that we're violent?--To ourselves, our communities, our friends and loves?</i><br />
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It swirled like a tsunami so strongly through the room that one roommate said he needed to take a nap. Ha!<br />
<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-26303591584554482012017-09-14T14:12:00.000-04:002017-09-14T14:12:57.708-04:00how to be depressed**1. Spend all your time on Facebook.<br />
2. Read and reread old texts, trying to decipher what went wrong, when, and what might happen next.<br />
3. Deprive yourself of your basic energy boosts like healthy food, exercise and INTERACTION WITH NICE PEOPLE.<br />
4. Read blogs about how to be successful.<br />
5. Spend a shit ton of money you don't have.<br />
6. Look at a screen most of the day. <br />
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Hello friends,<br />
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I've had a revelation. I've been teetering on the edge of exhaustion/depression/totally losing my shit for the past, oh, 8 months (around the time I realized my marriage was ending). I'm reaching the point where I can no longer try to hold myself together.<br />
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I feel like one of those stuffed animals in Toy Story that sits still (ie--meets everyone's expectations) when humans are in the room, and comes to life (ie--is not what the humans think) behind closed doors.<br />
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It's its own form of torture. I want to just let myself live behind the closed door for a while, not having to stiffen up when someone walks in the room. Or realistically speaking, I want to be more real, whatever room I'm in. Or more plainly stated: I want to be allowed to be depressed. Okay... I want to be depressed. Okay.. I AM depressed. And I don't want to fight it/hide it anymore.<br />
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But because I've got deep rooted shit around keeping it together in front of an audience (don't we all?) I'm going to give myself the real space to disappear into my metaphorical 13-year-old bedroom until I actually feel like I can sincerely walk out into the world feeling alive and positive.<br />
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<i>**by depressed i mean, more sad than you're used to for longer periods of time than you're used to. i'm not speaking in clinical terms. i have no training for that. but this shit might still help.</i><br />
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1. give a head's up, in writing, to your friends and family, inclusive of deep gratitude for taking you as you are these days... a totally imperfect and beautiful human who's just going through some shit. after all, you're depressed. connection HELPS. do a tiny bit of pre-work to make connection easier.<br />
2. identify a bitching partner. someone you can call up for 5 minute cries, complaints, or frozen-still attacks. do not abuse this person's generosity.<br />
1. <b>stop asking, "where is the space for my depression?"</b>--that's like asking, "where is the space for my breath?" there is no such thing as not enough space. space is infinite, always. you choose to walk into it, or not.<br />
2. <b>don't pretend you're happy when you're not. </b>be with the truth. let it engulf you until it falls away. full-body experiences always eventually fall away.<br />
3.<b> give yourself permission to stop trying so hard.</b> work from a place of humble hazy intuition, instead of push, push, push.<br />
4. <b>make your art. share it.</b> humans are exhausted by trying to make summer last year-round. trust that your blanket of white winter snow is more needed than you think, than you could ever imagine.<br />
5. <b>forget that you're a healer (or whatever you are). </b>just show up and do what you know how to do in your bones, because even in all this muck of depression, you still really like doing X.<br />
6. <b>let yourself be healed. </b>where are your books? your movies? your coaches? your favorite sweater? your favorite soaps? where is your manifesto about what really fucking sucks right now? and where is your follow-up release?<br />
7. <b>remember that life is long. </b>so so long. nothing lasts forever. that's what got you into this spiral from the get-go. (something major ended, no? the love you thought would last, the life, the inspiration). not even this will last.<br />
8. <b>did i mention to take care of yourself? </b>for every caring output, i dare you to do a caring input. you know that this is needed. don't want to care for yourself? too tired? here's a 3 sentence e-mail to send to all your friends: <i>dear friends, i'm so much more depressed than i'm prepared to admit. will you bring me dinner, send me texts, call me, or lay in bed with me while i cry sometime in the next two weeks? i love you. i really need it. thanks. ps--i can't even believe i'm sending this e-mail, but this blog told me to, so i am.</i><br />
9. <b>say "bless you" to your dear and terrorizing resistance.</b> how far you've been from understanding humanity. how much closer you're getting with each spout of anxious doubt.<br />
10.<b> close the damn laptop and cry already. </b>don't go 80%. the trouble with committing 80% to your depression is it's never really satisfied. it lingers far too long on facebook's homepage, a crush's photo page, and 1,000 sad love songs. CLOSE IT. CRY.<br />
11.<b> take a month off for 100% commitment to being with your shit. </b>(or a week, or a weekend). book yourself a room. no facebook allowed. you and i both know, you've earned it.<br />
12.<b> potential financial losses?</b> worth getting your power back.<br />
13. <b>potential work set back? </b>worth getting your passion back.<br />
14.<b> plus, investing in your mental health is a consistent positive feedback loop.</b> period.<br />
15. <b>look your shit straight in the eye like a deep, true love.</b> it is, more than either of us know. yet.<br />
16. <b>create a culture of acceptance around sadness. </b>you're not the only one suffering from no place to put it. make a box for the local coffee shop/library/bookstore/bar: "a place to put your sadness" with little slips of paper. every week, collect the sheets. burn them. say a prayer.<br />
17. <b>buy yourself flowers and fresh fruits and veggies.</b> constant reminders that things are born anew in beauty.<br />
18. <b>ask yourself for forgiveness. </b>you know what for.<br />
19. <b>write your thank you letters. and your forgiveness letters. </b>no pressure to mail them, just extra joy if you do.<br />
20. <b>watch the movie short bus. </b>it'll give you hope. promise.<br />
21. <b>don't hold onto your depression.</b> okay--now that you're really embracing your feelings, let them be in their truest state: fleeting, momentary, here & gone. do NOT build an identity around being depressed. it is only an open door for more torture and pain. really. <b>you're suffering plenty. promise.</b><br />
22. <b>instead, let the tiny flickers of light be your truth.</b> in the dark, there is still ____. what's light where you are? what beauty do you still have eyes for seeing, even in your lowest spots?<br />
22. <b>don't postpone joy.</b> you've gotten so used to the dark, that you might easily close your eyes to a bright flashing light in your face! don't postpone joy, sweet friends. answer that call with rapid fire speed. we all need relief. we all deserve exhaling tender laughs.<br />
23. <b>read any of these books as if they're wise sages sitting under a tree</b>, imparting quiet knowing or your tired, seeking soul: tantra by osho, anatomy of the spirit by caroline myss, peace is every step by thich nhat hanh (and whatever else people recommend in the comments below).<br />
24. <b>bonus for the healers: tell your clients, with love, where you are and what you can and cannot do. </b>in my case, i'll be sending a gentle e-mail to all my clients with the following stated: <i>dear lovely clients, i just want to send a heads-up that i'll be practicing what i preach of truly being invested in my process for the next while. i'll be creating public art and honestly expressing where i am. where am i? well, i'm kinda depressed. that said, you be the test of whether you feel it, or not, in our coaching. clients have been reporting to me lately that it's the best coaching they've ever received from me. i've been feeling more present than ever to my clients. and in the dark, coaching feels like the most beautiful light i have! so all this to say--worry not if i look exceptionally dark in art and expression. it's healing and powerful for me. thanks. i love you. i know you really get it.</i><br />
25.<b> be a freak.</b> it's fine. we knew all along. most of us are too busy worrying about keeping our inner-freaks in the closet to notice, anyway. let her out. you'll be doing a service to the world, showing that we can be both sad and powerful, honest and humble, tired and transformative... or sometimes, not. and that's okay, too.<br />
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<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-87565728560101928362017-09-14T14:05:00.000-04:002017-09-14T14:05:32.923-04:00Marry Young, Divorce Young: The Conglomerate Conversation I've Had with 100 Doubters<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<i>for brian, who's still my partner in doing things differently, who I still love to the moon and back.</i></div>
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"I always tell people it's a bad idea to marry young!" he says, after inquiring about my wedding tattoo and discovering that I'm divorced. "So I guess THAT was a mistake!"<br />
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"Nope. Not at all. It was a great idea. We wanted to celebrate our love. We believed in ourselves, each other." I'm a little smug on the subject, to be honest, deflecting so often the assumption that I regret my decision to marry.<br />
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"Well now it's gotta suck, doesn't it?!"<br />
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"Nah. Not really. We kept it real. Called it what it was when we didn't want each other anymore. Split up so we could stay in love."<br />
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"Huuuuh?"<br />
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"He's a great guy. It didn't end perfectly. It never does. But I wanted him to be happy. And he wanted me to be happy. And we knew it meant breaking up. Hard as fuck, but it's how we still love each other. We're not together, slowly making each other miserable."<br />
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"So it was a mutual break? That easy?"<br />
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"Uhh, not exactly..."<br />
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The conversation continues. Confusion ensues. In the end, we land here:<br />
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"Dude, basically, when you go all in, you get a lot of results. Wonderful, hard, easy, scary, memorable, human results. When you go half way, you get a lot of regrets. Anxious, unsettled, wishful, mournful regrets. We married. We divorced. We celebrated. We grieved. We both moved on. Faster than we would've if we were still half-assing our way through shit, too afraid to be real with ourselves and each other about our honest-to-god desires. I feel seriously accomplished to be 26 and divorced. Like...YEAH, BABY--GOT THAT UNDER MY BELT!"<br />
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We chuckle. "Better you than me."<br />
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"Psssh. Better this than that."<br />
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"Huh?"<br />
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"I'll take results over regrets any day."<br />
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"But a lot of them suck."<br />
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"But nothing lasts forever, either way."<br />
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"I dunno, girl. I couldn't deal with the shame... my family, my community, everyone there as I make this huge promise. And then telling them I failed?"<br />
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"So you'd rather never go for anything?"<br />
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"Not the shit I'm not sure of."<br />
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"No one gets married thinking they're gonna get divorced. I thought I was sure. Shit happens. Nothing's sure."<br />
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"HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THAT?"<br />
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"ONE CIGARETTE AT A TIME. Just kidding. I basically slept for a year."<br />
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"I don't have time for that."<br />
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"Yeah. There's not a lot of societal space to be a really alive human in this world. But then again, it's possible. You just have to stop worrying about looking good. And then you start developing all kindsa crazy faith... Start discovering that having the rug pulled out from under you doesn't actually kill you. It's weird and relieving."<br />
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"But how do you know that you'll get your shit back together?"<br />
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"You don't. You just HOPE. Or you just STOP HOPING and see what happens. It's really fucking humbling."<br />
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"OH MY GOD, YOU'RE TRIGGERING ALL OF MY SHIT."<br />
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"Oh my god, you're the best, I love you, let's hug."<br />
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The end.Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-54361934765379435752017-09-14T13:51:00.000-04:002017-09-14T13:51:52.154-04:00Your Life is Your Art: A Manifesto<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-40763604242729329182017-09-14T13:49:00.000-04:002017-09-14T13:49:39.246-04:00the story, unfolding, as if told from far away<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Welcome to my life story starting from the week before Burning Man, up until the present-ish, as if told from the future. This is really the only way I'll ever be able to bare coming out. As what? A non-denominational all-inclusive Lover. Society may call me "queer". Or "bisexual". Or "polyamorous". I wouldn't disagree with any of those labels. But the fact that we have to label our loving just goes to show how terrified we are of it. And with good reason. It is incredibly potent stuff. This is the story of mine. It's long. I didn't write it to be easily digestible or retweetable or whatever. I wrote it to be art. Full and honest and deep. And I'm sharing it to be of service. In case you want to nestle into a rich story that doesn't cut corners on the details and real context of shedding shame and falling into love.<br />
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<i>This is a photograph from early August of 2013, just after I moved all my crap out of Brian's parent's basement. The crap was, more specifically, the contents of a life we had built together over six long beautiful years in union. Love letters, bed sheets, frying pans, mugs. We boxed up the make-shift thrift-store contents of young love, and hauled it all into Bri's parent's basement, as place holder for a normal life we'd never actually return for, then pedaled off onto an eight month bicycle tour around the United States. We were married at the time; full on hope and trust, not yet jaded on love or togetherness.</i><br />
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<i>In the three years time between hauling the crap into the basement, and hauling it out, I watched my life spin out, as if from the perspective of a slow motion tornado. Everything around me swirled and ripped into shreds of people and places, jobs and lovers, hair colors and housemates. Millions of miles later, my core began to watch as the body around it also spun out. Even my casing had to go. Even my body was demolished and rebuilt.</i><br />
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<i>I didn't know it then, on that day the picture was taken, but I was at the end of a particular era of hauling. I was about to let go more massively than I could imagine; move away from my wounded and wanting adolescence, and into my soulful and sensual womanhood.</i><br />
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<i>A week after this photograph was taken, I left Washington DC for Portland, Oregon where my best friend Jodi lived. We were scheduled to go to Black Rock City, Nevada for a week-long radical community and expression immersion festival called Burning Man. Jodi found a guy named Jake through Craig's List who was driving an RV down, and we managed to catch a ride with him for $60 each way, each person. Along for the ride was Jake's new girlfriend Sara, and Benja and Jeff, who were a boy-duo akin to the girl-due of Jodi and I: sweetest mushy gushy friends on earth. There were six of us total bouncing around in the Virgin Voyager, and eight rest stops, two RV dance parties, one dry hump, and 20 hours later, we were like spirit-family arrived to the pearly gates of kink-Heaven.</i><br />
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<i>My first time at Burning Man was so magical that I couldn't bare to photograph, or talk much about it after. But the impact was unmistakable: a glorious devious energy saturated my blood and stayed pulsing in my psyche for months after. All of the sudden, I couldn't erase the love. I couldn't undo the sheer freedom, the shameless expression, the fire in me that society had dampened. The can had exploded. Worms were everywhere. There was no collecting them or putting them back in. I became Medusa, crown made of magic snakes. Except with the opposite effect: everyone I met, I melted. Hearts softened and opened into a magma bed of love. </i><br />
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<i>In the RV on the drive home, we stopped at a biodesiel gas station that carried only organic foods and grew wheatgrass on the roof. It was there, in that anomalous utopian gas station on the side of the highway in Oregon, that I decided I didn't have to go back for the crap I'd been hauling around DC. I didn't belong to that old life anymore. And there was no good reason on God's Glorious Earth to pretend otherwise. It was decided. I would stay in Portland until at least Thanksgiving.</i><br />
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<i>I accidentally relayed this information to my parents in a text message on the day my flight was supposed to arrive home: Rosh Hashana. They didn't talk to me for quite some time, but something about that felt good, too. Like I was old enough and ready enough to break ties, to become my own.</i><br />
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<i>Jodi and Jen's friend Maya had offered me the upstairs playroom of her house as my bedroom, in exchange for watching her daughter about 8 hours a week. It was an excellent deal, considering I was completely penniless and wanted more than anything to stay away from the energetic constipation of Washington DC. Living with Maya meant I'd have the</i><i> chance to devote myself fully to the art of my work and still be in an environment that felt nurturing. It would also be the second time living with a family in my twenties, and I knew from experience that I liked it. Something about the mixed up ages made me feel like everyone could really exist as themselves--like wherever you were was simply an expression of a stage you were going through, not a mark on your character--and this felt like a strange liberation compared to living with friends.</i><i> My upbringing happened in a household where divisiveness was the norm. So oddly enough, families felt like a safe place for me to individuate. And that, I did.</i><br />
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<i>I hula hooped alone in my attic-like room almost every day, sometimes to music, sometimes with the dancing trees outside my window baring silent witness to the breeze of my body. I smoked weed a few times a week and wrote poetry or masturbated as if composing a symphony. I read by flashlight at night since </i><i>the switch to the only light in the room was unreachable if I were to fall asleep while reading. The library was just a 10 minute walk from my house, and my favorite friends at that time were books: </i><i>The Girl Who Swallowed the Moon, Osho, Miranda July, The Ethical Slut. Besides Jodi, of course. </i><i>Jodi was my oldest friend--and old, in the context of so much new, felt in some ways more valuable than favorite. </i><br />
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<i>In that time together, Jodi and I grew close like we'd been in the glory days of our youth. We laid together half-naked on my bed eating almonds and drinking coconut water. We talked about my lovers, her heartbreaks, my work, her school, how broke we both were and how one day we'd be living in a whole other paradigm. An abundant one of wild togetherness, infinite love, deep healing, side-stitched laughter. We were spiritual and societal idealists on constant existential benders, falling into the arms of the other when we spiraled out on hope. It was the kind of friendship that made having such huge hearts feel bearable. "Thank God we have each other," we'd say on constant repeat, as if we wouldn't know where to put all the love or all the sorrow, if the other wasn't there to help hold it. </i><br />
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<i>Jodi struggled especially in that time, but not as much as before we were reunited. Jodi was a lesbian, and a tender one, at that. But it had been nearly two years since she'd felt true reciprocal love. It seemed like many times throughout our lives, one of us would go first with a lesson, so she could teach the other how to cope when it was her turn. I had just made it through the fire of incessantly falling in love with people who were unavailable, and it was Jodi's turn to go next. The number of basically straight women Jodi had fallen for was less important then the depth of wound it left her. Each time she'd discover that another one of her loves was straight, it was like a chunk of her heart had been shaved off, chopped up, thrown on the grill and then eaten by a black shadow of loneliness. She'd call me and I'd answer to a mousy quiet on the other end. We knew each other's sounds so well, I could hear which quiet meant tired, which meant hungry and which meant heartbroken. Heartbroken was the worst to hear.</i><br />
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<i>I made it my mission to help break her spell, as so many had helped me break mine. In that time, we were exploring anger like a drug neither of us knew well. Both of us more prone to the stillness of sadness, we vowed, together, to experiment with the movement of rage, the force of being fed up, helping each other run hard and fast in the direction of what we actually wanted, as an act of defiance against all the dead ends we'd been slamming into.</i><br />
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<i>For Jodi, we went to lesbian bars, lesbian dance nights, lesbian film screenings, lesbian everythings. I tweeted the lesbian groups for hat tips on the sweetest events. We threw parties inviting all the lesbians we liked from OK Cupid. "We're in this together, Jo. I'm helping you out of this god damn hole. There's a land of abundance. I swear. And I can't wait for you to get there." She'd tell me I was her biggest advocate. But the thing is, she was mine, too.</i><br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">One late September afternoon, it was a sunny day after a week straight of rain, so we took ourselves on an adventure to the top of Mt. Tabor. I remember thinking that it looked like the air itself was breathing, shimmering and warping with a mystical sort of life, and that surely the fairies were out at play. We brought along our sacks of magic--glitter and glue and guitars and hula hoops. We made movies and did headstands and took beautiful photographs of each other through blades of grass. Our bodies looked young and strong, primal and playful. With my head on Jo's belly, her arm around my neck, I could taste the smell of slightly burnt skin stirred with the depth of the cool lush ground.</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">After hours of playing in the sun, we wound up at the Waypost in North Portland--a cafe and bar that had nightly music. We ordered the cherry cider, upon the bartender's recommendation, and it was served in wide 20 ounce mason jars for $3 a pop. Jodi's heart was heavy again with too much love, so I came up with a silly art therapy game and we drew and drew and drew at a patio picnic table for hours. This was the way we were together: a constant split between lover, friend, therapist, muse, and artist. The truth was, we liked it. We wanted it all. All those ups and downs of being human. As long as we had each other to feel through it with.</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">That day was like the cards aligned perfectly for us to dance our advocacy for each other. I had good vibes about the bartender and found out that he was into Tarot. I had my animal cards with me, so at some point when he came by our table to bus some dishes, Jodi spoke up for me, "Do you want an animal card reading by Rach?" she asked. "I'd love one" he excitedly, and before I could blink or object, he was clearing off a space at the bar, inviting me to sit before him. That man, Antonio Bonilla, became one of the greatest loves of my life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">Later, the opening number for the set had bailed, and Jodi was on the patio strumming her guitar. I asked the band if they wanted her to open for them, and they said yes. Without having the chance to blink or object, I pulled her in from outside, and onto the stage.</span><br />
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<i>We were like everything we didn't have the resources, guts, or permission to be when we were 17--grown-up versions of the seeds we planted as teens: artists, writers, musicians, witches, therapists. There was a secret seed, though, that was also sprouting now--one we didn't realize had been planted, but had clearly been there all along--sex. And right along side it, like it's obvious alter ego sprouted shame.</i><br />
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<i>At 26, we were in that stage of wanting to think we'd shed all the shame about our "othered" identities, but the truth was, we were just beginning. Jodi was further along than I was, traditionally speaking, in terms of being Out. She'd been in conversation with her family since she was about 19. I, on the other hand, had a much more non-conventional approach to my Outness, partially because I was still grappling with what to call all the love I was exploding into, all the boundless label-less amorphous glorious love. And partly because I was enraged that love ever needed explaining at all.</i><br />
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<i>I had fallen in love with and been in relationships with women. I had also been in love with more than one person at a time, and told everyone about everyone else. (Neither of which felt easy to let myself do, initially.) Jodi and I were also in a relationship that confused everyone new who we met. "Best friends don't spoon 3 nights a week," they'd say. "Why not?" I'd retort back. "More love is never bad." But the way I communicated about my love was more or less decided upon, and dependent on my audience. With the actual lover and my close friends, I acted as if nothing was strange about our togetherness (because nothing actually felt strange in my heart). With my parents, I communicated abruptly and abrasively about my relationships (because I didn't want them to have any space to tell me "no"). And in "public" which also meant with most of my extended family, I let the whole thing go silent and invisible (because the truth always felt too vulnerable to reveal). I had a clear act decided upon for each situation. A way to stay safe. A way to guard the love. </i><br />
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<i>But those acts were old suitcases, becoming tattered, and I was new and sick of carrying them.</i><br />
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<i>It felt symbolic that the only clothes I had with me were what I had brought for Burning Man, and whatever donations Jodi and her housemates passed along to me. I was literally draped in a freak-suit of sorts most days for my first month in Portland. Staples to my wardrobe included cheetah spandex, a skin-tight denim vest, and my silk zebra robe. The only two pairs of shoes I had were a tasseled duo of all-white cowgirl boots, and my apple green low-top Chuck Taylors. Glitter and scrolls were my most trusted currency--I carried them with me everywhere I went. And my video camera was constantly capturing the magic. I was totally broke but had everything I needed, and any time my bank account balance got down below $5, I'd take a screen shot of the statement as a strange form of gratitude. As a way of saying, "Look. This is what it feels like to have no money. You are so fucking blissed out it doesn't even matter."</i><br />
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<i>I could taste my riches in every breath. I didn't give a damn about the future.</i><br />
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<i>But one day at the peak of my pennilessness, I came up with a game I could offer out to my clients--a 30 day challenge course centered all around your aligning your core desires and your actions. Long story short, when you teach, it's pretty much required that you go first. So I figured out that what my heart wanted for 30 days was simple: to stay with love. </i><br />
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<i>"Love what you have, and you'll have more love" was the Regina Spektor lyrics I scrolled up on a tiny piece of paper and put inside a small glass capsule I wore around my neck. Every day, when I did something that signified "staying with love", I'd add a little bit of gold glitter to the capsule. It was a beautiful idea, but it wasn't until a session with one of my clients, that I realized what I was really doing.</i><br />
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<i>The client had had gastro intestinal bypass surgery, and thus, an extra flap of skin remained around her belly and had been there for decades. She'd spent much of her life hating that skin, trying get rid of it, shame it, shun it out of existence. In our session, we realized that what her body really wanted was emotional support--to invite all of herself back into her tender embrace. To welcome herself home. To love her whole body, unconditionally. </i><br />
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<i>It may sound strange, but I had closeted part of my heart. And just like my clients' body, every part of my heart was holy. Every part of it was meant to be there, in that upward flowering position, center facing the sun of love, saying, "This pollen is for everyone. This pollen. Come. And. Feast."</i>Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-84044339647470903632014-09-26T15:00:00.003-04:002014-09-26T15:00:29.881-04:00Your Magic's in the Mud<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><iframe frameborder="no" height="450" scrolling="no" src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/tracks/169491341&auto_play=false&hide_related=false&show_comments=true&show_user=true&show_reposts=false&visual=true" width="100%"></iframe></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After years of learning how to keep your shoes clean<br />How to press your appearance<br />How to button yourself together</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I beg the question--<br />Are your insides lit up?<br />Does your belly feel vibrant?<br />Are you singing the truth<br />or does your voice stay quiet in fear?</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This morning I put on my most suitable outfit<br />and into the mist, I walked<br />Down to the river where the shore was line with mud</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I screamed<br />Because I never scream</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I wailed<br />I kicked<br />I got fucking dirty</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I kept nothing together for the others</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I let myself have my shadow</span></span></div>
Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-78171323885340097292014-09-16T13:35:00.000-04:002014-09-17T14:31:59.031-04:00ON CRYING + TRYING + THE MAGIC OF GIVING UPI'm at Burning Man, crying about a good bit of heartbreak, when my awesomely scientifically-minded friend looks at me, cock-eyed, and says in her British accent:<br />
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"I'm quite sure that you're the best crier I know."<br />
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"Ha! What makes for a good crier?" I ask.<br />
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"Well you do this thing where you let it all the way out. And then, consequently, you don't apologize for doing so."<br />
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<b>CRYING AS A SCIENTIFICALLY HEALING POTION</b><br />
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I let her words sit with me for a few weeks, cried a bit more for research's sake, and then decided to do some actual scientific research, so I could report back. <br />
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The questions I took to the Google Machine:<br />
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<b>I know that I feel awesome post-crying, but could this possibly be something that most humans experience? And if so, why?--Why does it feel so good to cry?</b> Is all crying good crying? Also, why do so many of us avoid this thing that feels good, and what's the key to letting ourselves cry?<br />
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<b>THE RESEARCH</b><br />
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<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Crying-Mystery-William-H-Frey/dp/0866838295">A study done</a> by biochemist and tear expert Dr. William Frey, compared the chemical contents of emotional tears (the tears we cry due to sadness or grief), with those of reflex tears (the tears we cry to protect us from particles or intrusions). <br />
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The findings? <br />
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<b>Emotional tears release multiple chemical toxins produced during stress as well as mood-elevating endorphins, while reflex tears are 98% water! </b>(More <a href="http://archives.smdailyjournal.com/article_preview.php?id=53397">here</a>).<br />
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Frey claims that the body secretes tears <i>for the sake of</i> removing toxins from the body, similar to the toxin-removing process of urination. And while emotional processing is good and dandy, releasing the chemical composition of toxins, might be the deal-sealer for feeling better. <br />
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<b>THE TROUBLE WITH TRYING NOT TO CRY</b><br />
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Usually, when we're trying not to cry, it's because we're attached to trying to do or be something other than someone who's crying. A master, a helper, a teacher, a winner, a maker, a mother, a father, a leader. We don't compute "crier" with any of these things.<br />
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Of course, some people have learned to use crying as a manipulative tool to increase getting what they want by eliciting sympathy or fear in others. To be clear--this is not the kind of crying for which I'm advocating. In fact, manipulative crying gives the healing sacred crying for which I <i>am</i> advocating, a bad rep. <br />
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But more than the argument of manipulative crying, our societal mindset is still half-way stuck in the Industrial Revolution paradigm of no-time-to-cry-in-the-factory, or the patriarchal paradigm of it's-weak-and-wimpy-to-cry. <br />
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And so, we deny nature. We hold in our tears, and it's painful. It's also unhealthy, clenching onto the toxins that our body so naturally knows how to release.<br />
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<b>The facts are that the average female cries 5.3 times per month, and the average male cries 1.4 times </b>(this, presumably, has to do with females having more prolactin than males--another hormone released in emotional tears)--but when asked to predict how many times they thought they'd cry over the span of a month, both sexes predicted lower than reality. <br />
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We wish our crying weren't so, but it's so, folks. And wishing otherwise is futile--an added stress to our already emotional lives.<br />
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<b>HOW TO GIVE UP + GIVE IN TO CRYING</b><br />
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First of all--You Were Built For Crying. (Just the same as you were built for pissin'.)<br />
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Now that that's... sealed in... <br />
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<b>Three Tips for Crying, from The Crying Expert Herself:</b><br />
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<b>1) When you sense you might want to cry, but your mind is telling you not to.</b><br />
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Try on these three sentences:<br />
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"It's healthy to cry. I want to cry. I am going to cry." <br />
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And then let your body move naturally into its most comfortable crying position. <br />
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Many of us are walking around with our default response to crying as, "Go away. I don't want you here. You're making a fool out of me. You're taking up too much space and energy. I'm not allowed to release you. People will think I'm a baby or brat."<br />
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Would you say that to your piss? <br />
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"It's HEALTHY to cry," reminds you that crying releases toxins and actually has physiological benefits.<br />
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"I WANT to cry right now," welcomes your tears as a healing and healthy release.<br />
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"I am GOING to cry," invites you to walk towards your experience.<br />
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After you whisper these three things, let yourself actually walk toward the position that feels safest to cry in, wherever you are. Get comfortable. Breathe. Exhale. Exhale loudly. Keep exhaling loudly until, perhaps, at last, you cry.<br />
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<b>2) When you WANT to cry but feel unsafe or unpracticed or very very stuck.</b><br />
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Damien Rice. Joni Mitchell's Blue album. Put 'em in the dock and get out a pen and paper.<br />
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Answer this question: <br />
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If I knew and trusted that I was meant to cry, that it's allowed and safe, healthy, even, what would I let myself cry about? Pent up or fresh? Old or new?<br />
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A shorter prompt is:<br />
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I am ready & willing to cry about ______. <br />
I am ready & willing to cry about ______.<br />
I am ready & willing to cry about ______. <br />
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Write, write, write. When I write what I'm ready & willing to cry about, I usually end up dropping the pen, dropping my mask, and letting the tears fall freely.<br />
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<b>3) When the crying feels too big for you and you alone, or too stuck to express without a little external compassion.</b><br />
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Phone a friend. I'd go with someone you've seen cry before. Or someone who often cries to you. <br />
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Here's your line: "Hi. I really need to cry. Can you be my witness right now?" <br />
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Or: "Hi. I really need to cry and I'm feeling really stuck. Can I simply talk about the things I want to cry about, to see if it helps me? I made a list." <br />
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If you still don't cry, that's OKAY--you're in touch with your emotions and deepening a relationship based on vulnerability and truth-telling. This is always a good thing.<br />
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If you DO start crying--give yourself the chance to Really Cry. <br />
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I once had a coach say to me, while I was amidst some mild-tears post-separation, <b>"You know, in some cultures they go out into the field and they wail, loudly, as loud as they can."</b> It was total permission to release it all. Expel. Free.<br />
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<b>THE HIDDEN MAGIC OF TEARS</b><br />
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While crying doesn't expel all pain (nothing ever has or ever will expel pain from the human experience), it does move our energy and our toxins. <br />
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But most importantly, <b>it's devotional presence</b> to allow ourselves and our bodies the expression of tears. And <b>what follows that expression is the hidden magic of tears... </b><br />
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<b>After we cry,</b> it's like getting on a boat to the <i>next</i> stop of our healing journey.<br />
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We fall into a blissful nap, or we let out a big fit of laughter.<br />
We know clearly what's true for us, or we have a new unwavering direction of inquiry.<br />
We soften to the humility, the frailty of being human, and we experience our strength as a surrender to the truth.<br />
We allow ourselves the treat of comfort food or a long hug from a friend.<br />
We move deeper into the flow of our healing, rather than spinning on the hamster wheel of avoidance. <br />
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<b>Releasing the tension, giving in to our nature, to our tears--this is the expression that frees us up to keep moving.</b><br />
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We were built to cry. Let yourself try. There's magic and brilliance in giving up on holding it together.<br />
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Rachael Maddox is a spiritual force of love who works with powerful people world-wide to activate and enhance their inner-magic. Professionally trained through the Coaches
Training Institute and with a lifetime of teachings in the School of
Stories and Providential Moments, Rachael fuses coaching, mystical
ritual, somatics, radical expression, and fire to invoke healing and
joy in those seeking to wake up and rise up. Check out her 17 day one-on-one coaching ritual, <a href="http://bit.ly/magic17">Magic 17</a>, for a profound pivot toward a life of meaning and magic, or her online community <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/563022457135907/">Swing, Damnit</a>, for a place to spark and share your inner artist. Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-72018675870460287922014-07-21T04:52:00.004-04:002014-07-21T04:57:50.006-04:00Do you labor and labor and then say 'eh, it's just not right'? :: SWING, DAMNIT DAY 1Hey magic-makers,<br />
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It's Day 1 of Swing, Damn It! and I am really happy-nervous-fuck-yeah-ready to be sharing with you these first three creations.<br />
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<b>First up:</b> Introducing a poem in which my soul-mate-5-year-old-bestie reminds us all to make our god damn art, perfectionism be damned!<br />
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This was the 5th poem of the year in my poem-a-day project. Over the next 7 days, check back in for a daily video-poem, featuring my fave(ish) poem I wrote per month over the last 7 months. <br />
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<a href="http://vimeo.com/101275604">Poetry-Worthy by Rachael Maddox</a> from <a href="http://vimeo.com/user2413432">Rachael Maddox</a> on <a href="https://vimeo.com/">Vimeo</a>.<br />
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<b>Next up: </b>I made this sparkly promo video for my new coaching program, Magic 17. I really love it, but I've been super shy about sharing it. The matches, though... When I asked them, they were all like, "RACH, PLEASE STOP HIDING YOUR MAGIC." Right. Got it. <br />
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<a href="http://vimeo.com/99897141">Magic 17 ~ Step into the fire</a> from <a href="http://vimeo.com/user2413432">Rachael Maddox</a> on <a href="https://vimeo.com/">Vimeo</a>.<br />
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<b>Lastly: </b>I'm doing an offical PLEASE STOP HIDING YOUR MAGIC invitation. Because solidarity is one of my favorite medicines on earth. Over the next 7 days (7/21-7/27), I'm offering 17% off to anyone who signs up for Magic 17. You can buy it now, and use it later, too, if you want to get in on the sale but this isn't your moment for the intensive.<br />
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Below's a summary of the program, and <a href="http://bit.ly/magic17">right here's</a> a more in-depth read on things. To apply your 17% discount, write to me on the Magic 17 with I'M DONE HIDING MY MAGIC and that'll be the secret-code for your 17% off discount. <br />
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<i><b>Magic 17 </b></i>is a coaching program for people who are ready to make immediate and deeply aligned change in one or two specific areas of their lives, using a fiery, fun and powerful modality.<br />
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We combine a sacred ritual with traditional coaching techniques, for a potent experience that initiates change, growth, and real-world results, in alchemical timing.<br />
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The ritual? Lite a match. Answer a question in the time it takes for the match to burn. Repeat. We do this for 17 minutes, 7 different times over a 17 day time-frame.<br />
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The continuity of having a session every 2 to 3 days, plus the alchemy of the fire, makes this program especially powerful for people who are ready, now, to co-create deep shifts and real-world results in their lives.<br />
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To magic, and imperfection, and of course, sharing. Thanks for receiving my gifts! No it's your turn: Swing, Damnit! <br />
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Lots of love,<br />
Rachael Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-19637660096093080672014-07-14T21:11:00.000-04:002014-07-16T14:12:12.954-04:00Crisis Control vs Crisis Alchemy, and an Invitation to Show Up and Swing<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiifryYvXjzbKlFeNkkItXeiR77horo1e2Gb9AHIIBFvMWeY2XsDBLBgjwHhhgZDZyOaYPakWmxqW4oLWXZe1eusGSJmYbU4nFJI3hTlVjmxOUloeAgUZ306gq4rbBdIfpmgKbURmTIuREI/s640/blogger-image--380168793.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiifryYvXjzbKlFeNkkItXeiR77horo1e2Gb9AHIIBFvMWeY2XsDBLBgjwHhhgZDZyOaYPakWmxqW4oLWXZe1eusGSJmYbU4nFJI3hTlVjmxOUloeAgUZ306gq4rbBdIfpmgKbURmTIuREI/s400/blogger-image--380168793.jpg" width="400"></a></div>
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My friends and I have this casual habit of referring to our life-stages as a "crisis of [fill-in-the-blank]". (I know, I know, negative thinking blah blah blah... It's the fun unenlightened reality, folks). For a while I was in a crisis of faith. Before that, a crisis of sex. Now, I've been moving through a crisis of confidence, and it's exactly why I'm showing up, writing you.<br>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I'm remembering that crises aren't actually crises until we try to control them.</span><br>
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Control, as it relates to crisis, often focuses on locking things down to a stable place. This is good sometimes--good for catching your breath, getting your bearings. But after that, something more magical is desirable, because no one really wants to always live in the land of merely-catching-breath. </div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Introducing Crisis Alchemy: the process of leaning <i>into</i> the friction and discomfort of transformation, and emerging more intelligent and whole.</span><br>
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Back to my confidence crisis for just a moment, then I'm going to tell you exactly how to best apply crisis alchemy.<br>
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At this point, I can easily assert that the past seven months have been the <a href="http://bit.ly/magic17">most</a> <a href="https://vimeo.com/user2413432/videos">creatively</a> <a href="http://rachaelpoetry.blogspot.com/">productive</a> of my entire life. And yet, sharing has felt like a surefire trip to the dungeon of doom, ridden with endless opportunity for rejection, disapproval and losing--or worse, being totally overlooked. I write excuse after excuse about why I can't share, and instead, hide out with my creations, offering glances only to the people I know will love me, no matter. Confidence crisis, summed up.<br>
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<b>The opportunity for crisis alchemy deliverance? Ask inverse questions.</b><br>
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In my case, the old way, the stuck way, would ask over and over and OVER again, <i>What's the risk of sharing? How might this go wrong? What do I have to lose if I share?</i><br>
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<span style="font-size: large;">But the new way, the alchemical way, asks the inverse questions: </span><br>
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<span style="font-size: large;">+What's the risk of <i>not</i> sharing? </span><br>
<span style="font-size: large;">+What's in grave danger of <i>not happening</i> if I stay hidden and covert? </span><br>
<span style="font-size: large;">+</span><span style="font-size: large;">What's the cost of avoiding friction?</span><br>
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You can do the same question-inversion process with whatever crisis you might be amidst. Sex, cash, housing, identity. Flip your normal questions on their back. Walk curiously through the opening. (Hint: our normal questions are usually fear based when we're in crisis mode. That's the reason why we feel like it's a crisis: 'cause terror's taken over creativity).<br>
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Some love-based alchemical questions:<br>
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+What's the risk of NOT being honest?</div>
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+What's the cost of NOT sharing my heart?</div>
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+What definitely WON'T happen if I never go for it?</div>
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+What happens if I NEVER apologize? <br>
+What happens if I KEEP apologizing?<br>
+Who wins if I walk away? Who wins if I stay? </div>
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+What if anger's good?</div>
+What will definitely happen if I act based on fear?<br>
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+What would total faith do, right now?</div>
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+What's the price of stalling?</div>
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+What's the wisdom of patience?</div>
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+Who might I connect with, inspire or impact positively if I step out on a ledge, now?</div>
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+What do others not understand, that I know as deep and true wisdom?</div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">+What am I gaining, even if they disagree with me?</span><br>
<span style="font-size: small;">+What could budging on my stubbornness do for the good of all? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">+What if they want to <i>love</i> me? Can I give them the chance?</span></div>
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When I answer questions like these--alchemical and love-based--my true desires are highlighted, rather than the darkness of my fear. </span><br>
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<span style="font-size: large;">And what I'm constantly having to remind myself about alchemy is this: <b>alchemy happens when you keep your eye on the ball of your desire, instead of focusing on the dark of your fear, or the discomfort of learning how to nail your desire. </b></span><br>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Desire inspires practice if you're tapping into it. So ask the alchemical questions, then simply show up to the batting cage. Swing and miss. Swing and hit. Just swing. </span><br>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">The alchemy's in the <i>woosh</i> of trying, once you know what you really wanna try for.</span></b><br>
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In the spirit of <i>the woosh of trying</i>, and because what I really desire is to SHARE the magic stuff I've created, I've made a handy <a href="http://bit.ly/swingdamnit">seven-day digital event called Swing, Damn It</a>. It starts next Monday the 21st, and runs through to Sunday the 27th. Once a day, for seven days, we share our creations, our offerings, our expression.<br>
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Head <a href="http://bit.ly/swingdamnit">here</a> for the details. It'll be a supportive, fun way to 1) share our magic, 2) meet other awesome creative people and learn about what they're up to, 3) generate togetherness as opposed to competition, and 4) be seen and heard.<br>
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Oh, and it's totally free. <br>
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Wild love, wild hearts. We got this.<br>
xo,<br>
Rachael </div>
Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-79109075517306549942014-07-05T17:13:00.000-04:002014-07-05T18:09:33.625-04:00Declaration of Interdependence : Ground Zero of the Togetherness Revolution<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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This is a declaration of humble grand simple humanness, in which it is
hereby stated that <b>we know this as truth: the real magic, the greatest
magic of all, is giving everything to each other. </b>Not hoarding for
ourselves in our bomb shelters of fear, but offering our gifts, mixing
and melting into collaborations born from true inspiration and
insight that <b>we are able to do something beautiful, something
noble, something for others that brings them joy or peace, something for
ourselves that feeds our power to give more, to celebrate more, to
praise more the wildness of life.</b> Because giving, celebrating,
praising--they're the gold we never knew we always had. The magic that
requires no spells, just letting go and calling out, "How can I help?"
"Hallelujah!" Hooooo, baby, lookin' good!"<b> </b><br />
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<b>A movement has taken hold. A movement of people building a truly sustainable container for human thriving, </b>based on four key pillars: personal practices, loving friendship, sustainable environments, and the best use of the Internet. The combination of these ingredients is creating a togetherness like never before; one that is changing the landscape of humanity as we know it, making way for a love-based aliveness of a whole new caliber. <br />
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1. PERSONAL PRACTICES. Our movement is rooted in personal practices that foster:<br />
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<li>physical health, vitality and sensuality</li>
<li>emotional resilience, appreciation and
expression</li>
<li>mental clarity, ease and creativity</li>
<li>spiritual
wisdom and remembrance
</li>
</ul>
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2. LOVING FRIENDSHIP. Our movement is rooted in friendship that loves in the languages of:<br />
<ul>
<li>sharing our gifts and resources</li>
<li>honoring ourselves and each other for our natural gifts, as well as struggles</li>
<li>shamelessness & honesty</li>
<li>devotion to staying through the thick of mortality, with laughter, dancing & helping hands</li>
</ul>
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3. NURTURING ENVIRONMENTS. Our movement is rooted in nurturing home and work environments that facilitate:<br />
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<li>the health of the body</li>
<li>accessibility to friendship as well as solitude</li>
<li>connection with
(and fostering of) the magic of the earth</li>
</ul>
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4. INTERWEBS. Our movement is supported by the best use of the Internet as:<br />
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<li>a tool for rapid
connection and cross pollination of these ideas</li>
<li>a means for
facilitating a whole new way</li>
</ul>
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A way of never-before-so-possible, but now almost inevitable. <b>A way in
which love, compassion and the integrity of humanitarianism</b> ensures that
our whole human family is fed and housed, healing violence, and
creating abundant opportunities for connection, joy and peace. A way in
which this insurance of togetherness, this deep sense of the human
family, is <b>the new norm we never knew was actually possible until it
rose up in us like our first human-family orgasm.</b><br />
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In this Declaration of Interdependence, let it be known that I was half
asleep while writing, therefore it was more like plucking words, one by
one, like stars from the sky of our collective dreamland. Perhaps
interdependence is a dream. <b>Perhaps togetherness is our deepest dream, underneath
all the climbing for personal acclaim. </b>Perhaps we simply want to make
it, and we secretly wish that we didn't have to be alone at the top of
the mountain (or the bottom, for that matter).<br />
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This Declaration is an invitation. You can have this dream if you
want it: the dream for our togetherness. You can walk toward it, run
toward it, dance in it, awaken it like a sleeping dragon. <b>You can INSIST that we are smart enough, caring enough, and committed
enough, to create awesome new ways of honor and sustainability that
support the masses of humanity</b>... and we can do so by: 1) helping each other
unlock our passions and come into our magic, and 2) reminding ourselves and each other that our magic is here to service the whole of humanity, the whole of existence. <br />
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<b>This fire, this persistence, when infused with the real practice of wild love,
will burn down the way it was. We will rise, together, and wipe the ash
off each other's backs. </b>We can have togetherness. <b>We can belong--to the
earth, to each other, to our bodies, inside the great gorgeous mystery
of life.</b> We already do. <b>May we remain in awareness, in remembrance</b> of our intelligent capacity, our
courageous willingness, our supportive tools, and our loving
manifestation of our highest destiny as humans: peaceful, thriving,
glorious and gorgeous interdependence.<br />
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I love you. I love you so much. Let's be together.<br />
Love,<br />
RachaelRachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-4335357825064627992014-07-02T21:32:00.002-04:002014-07-02T21:32:38.640-04:00Surprise Me<iframe frameborder="no" height="450" scrolling="no" src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/tracks/157070619&auto_play=false&hide_related=false&show_comments=true&show_user=true&show_reposts=false&visual=true" width="100%"></iframe>
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today will go down in the history books<br />
as the umteenth time <br />
i let the five year old girl i nanny<br />
fuel my sleepless body<br />
with the silly folly of dancing to billy joel<br />
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it will go down on record<br />
as the hundredth time<br />
i'm hung over on heartbreak--<br />
i've gotten smarter, by now,<br />
at drinking lots of water<br />
while cracking, crying<br />
calling on each others courage<br />
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today will go down as the third time, maybe fourth <br />
that i looked myself in the mirror--<br />
after sleeping in my clothes from the night before--<br />
and said, "grow up, kid.<br />
it won't kill your spirit."<br />
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today, was the fifth time i burned all my little dreams.<br />
floated ashes down the stream<br />
whispered silently to the hot summer sky,<br />
"surprise me.<br />
surprise me."Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-87566886812518054392014-05-30T14:51:00.001-04:002014-05-30T15:01:17.332-04:00Young Love Revival : Baby It's You<iframe frameborder="no" height="450" scrolling="no" src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/tracks/152045336&auto_play=false&hide_related=false&show_comments=true&show_user=true&show_reposts=false&visual=true" width="100%"></iframe><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">the age of earnest eager love is not dead<br />i am not too old and knowing<br />too bruised from showing my interest<br />to show up and kiss you three songs longer<br />than what would make me strong<br />and untouchable</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">i will not be untouchable<br />behind a locked glass case<br />i will be breakable<br />and you will see it on my face<br />not with fear, but with that<br />young brave smear of ready for more<br />hot cheeks on yours<br />open doors<br />generous gestures</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">i will call in sick for you<br />i will detail my history for you<br />i will write new rules for you<br />that have nothing to do my wounds<br />and everything to do with what i want to do:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">love you, like love is new<br />like i haven't been so bruised<br />like we can choose<br />to stay past the fear of staying too long<br />i will lean in, and i will hum this song:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">you're the one i love<br />you're the one i need<br />you're the only one i see<br />come on, baby, it's you!*</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">i will stand belly to belly with you<br />forehead to forehead with you<br />nose to nose with you<br />and i will whisper my earnest eager truth:<br />baby, it's you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">*from beyonce's, love on top</span></div>
Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-13010109406269609192014-04-07T03:17:00.000-04:002014-04-07T03:23:59.745-04:00Make Your Art<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="283" mozallowfullscreen="" src="//player.vimeo.com/video/91057923" webkitallowfullscreen="" width="500"></iframe> <br />
<a href="http://vimeo.com/91057923">Make Your Art</a> from <a href="http://vimeo.com/user2413432">Rachael Maddox</a> on <a href="https://vimeo.com/">Vimeo</a>.<br />
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because the flow is healthy for your heart<br />
because creation > consumption<br />
because there's room in the world for your fullest expression<br />
because braving the practice of seeing yourself makes space for others to see you, too<br />
because art's relatable, and we all wanna feel the truth of our togetherness<br />
because you can, damn it, so just do it<br />
because once upon a time you were young and feared not the "good-enough" syndrome, and that part of you is still alive, ready with a vengeance to make up for lost time<br />
because art Accesses Reasonless Truth, and the world is in need of this kind of wisdom<br />
because avoiding your art is avoiding your power<br />
because your soul is exquisite, simple as it is, and your art is its earnest showcase<br />
because i personally want a window for loving you deeper<br />
<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-26104743663947340992014-03-25T03:29:00.000-04:002014-03-25T03:29:36.888-04:00what to do if you have spring fever and no lover:<br />
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1. make love to your art.<br />
2. make out with your sweat.<br />
3. make openings in the earth.<br />
4. make practices of growth.<br />
5. make eye contact.<br />
6. make amends.<br />
7. make up a song.<br />
8. make room for surprises.<br />
9. make friends with quiet.<br />
10. make peace with your body's edges.<br />
11. make it mean less.<br />
<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-31542384456291977272014-03-10T17:32:00.000-04:002014-03-10T17:32:15.621-04:00Record Winds Are Coming: For Jodi, Springtime, and Anyone Needing a Blessing<div style="text-align: center;">
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The sun shone for a good 3 hours today. Now, outside my cracked window, gentle rains hit the pavement like a cleansing shower. Perhaps we need more of this emotionality than we could ever imagine to be humane.<br />
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This song is for you, if you've had a long winter.<br />
If you're not sure that you've grown stronger through all the trials of cold or gray.<br />
If you simply miss knowing that there's a blazing heart of love somewhere, who wants you to feel deeply through your whole body how honestly adored you are for simply sticking around this long.<br />
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This song is for you, if you think you just might <i>feel too much </i>to be normal or healthy or human in the world in 2014.<br />
If your feet are ready to be bare in the mud.<br />
Or if your mind is longing for a tornado of fresh air to rearrange all the old stories that are straight-up breaking your heart.<br />
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SPRING IS COMING. Things are changing. You Are Changing. The world is changing to meet the new you you're becoming. This is the truth. No matter how stuck in the past you pretend to be, You Are Here, in a perfectly new spot that has new secrets to reveal if you stay open enough to hear them.<br />
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My dear soul sister Jodi's birthday is tomorrow. Just a few nights ago we were sitting on my bedroom floor cross-legged eating soup, feeling things. We have this idea that we'll make bumper stickers that say FEELINGS and post them all over the city of Portland. (The thought of putting them on stop signs feels especially liberating... STOP FEELINGS ... Haha! If only!)<br />
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This song is especially for you Jo, the Queen of Feelings, the edge dweller of joy and the deep diver of grief--born right at the crux of winter and spring, able to bend in both directions. For all your aliveness, all your truth, all your spacious sacred ways of standing strong in the rain, in the gray, in the bright blossoming new beginnings of joy. I believe in all your songs. I believe that you're meant for exactly what's happening. And I'm so thankful to explore the holy magical ride of being alive by your side.<br />
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Today, if you could comment on this post with the ways you wish to bloom this spring, I'll make us a collective altar. I'll write each of your wishes on tiny slips of paper, put them in a bowl, collect some fallen flowers from the neighbors' tree, and circle the bowl with the blooms and candles. The fire is coming, loves. How do you wish to roar? Do tell. Our collective song is stronger.Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-67041688972465314392014-01-07T21:13:00.000-05:002014-01-30T23:51:47.502-05:00Being Less of a Somebody Makes for a Happier Soulbody<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I didn't think it was possible, but alas... As I fell into a blissful nap this afternoon, after working the early morning shift at the bakery down the street from my house, I thought to myself, <i>I have the perfect life. </i><br />
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Mind you, I have a cracked tail bone, under $200, and no real goal of getting somewhere big. No love-of-my-life has strutted into the scene. No dreams have fallen into my lap.</div>
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But mind you, I also have a roof over my head, friends of every age, the time and space to dance and make art and light candles and read books and bake bread if I so well please. And perhaps, after all, those are the biggest dreams of all.</div>
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I have space. I have quiet. I have art and music and true friendship. I have freedom and my own small rebellion from all the projections of what I was supposed to become. I have a thousand acquired legos and I'm building my new home. (Which, by the way, has candles lit 17 hours a day, and walls that sweat with prayers and grace.)</div>
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And I live in a city where being like this--relaxed and healing-focused--makes me <i>just like everybody else</i>. And that, my friends, feels <i>good</i>. Freak flags are fine and dandy (wonderful! fly 'em high!), but living in the Freak City is proving itself to be the sweetest relief a girl like me could ask for.</div>
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That's all. Just wanted to pop in and report on life from my end. I've casually taken myself out of the internet-end of my business. Because hustling online for clients is not my art, nor my liberation. That's all I really feel like saying on that for now. I'm sure you can imagine. </div>
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Also, since moving to Portland it seems I've been getting mail twice weekly. If you want to be pen pals, I'd so love to hear from you. How's your heart? What's your secret wish? The life you know in your bones would be your most authentic day-to-day? </div>
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Write me here or on old fashioned pen and paper. I'd love to hear from you.</div>
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Rachael Maddox</div>
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Also, I'm doing an intimate poem-a-day project throughout 2014. I'm keeping it private to the public-at-large (oh, the millions of you that want to read my secret poems! ;)... but I'd be happy to send you the private link if you want to read along. Just email me at rachmddx at gmail dot com with WRITE YOUR POEMS in the subject line, and I'll send you the link. You are so welcome to sneak a peek, write to me about it, write your own poems, send them to me as a loving listener and support. All the good things!<br />
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Wishing you the happiest of 2014s... a year of truth and emergence, liberation and grace. xoxo</div>
Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-60080219489154436022013-12-31T15:03:00.002-05:002014-02-03T01:42:54.567-05:00eve eve eve, with no need to apologize<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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i don't have normal words.<br />
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i have acrostic poems and sketches and ribbons of choruses dancing the gray-sky winds.<br />
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i have 1,000 homes and healing hips.<br />
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i have my mind and the chance for existentialism or grins.<br />
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i have the gift of what's come from giving up on where i'm from. trying less to impress. trying true to breathe through the anxiety of not needing to be somebody.<br />
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i have coffee, black and bitter.<br />
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i have books, better and better.<br />
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i have chest-swollen-thanks under my sweater.<br />
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i have moon-bright-trust tucked under cover.<br />
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i have a chastity belt around my bruised bottom and a sense of safety even though i'm broken.<br />
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i have thank you's overdue and your welcome's i haven't felt through.<br />
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i have more spirals than i can count.<br />
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i have sacred memories i won't write about.<br />
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i have mirrors and mirrors and mirrors of love.<br />
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i have the wild above and the thick tangled below.<br />
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the center throws of now all dancing around my body like flames of infinity i don't need to control.<br />
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find me in awe, down on my knees, praying please please please:<br />
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shout yes across the ether, and yes into my weathered heart.<br />
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yes to the ache in me that pleads to break free from humanity.<br />
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find me whispering: <i>this, this, this is it.</i><br />
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stay. it's all okay.<br />
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tenderness. cracks. new growth. laughs.<br />
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a strange freedom from longing.<br />
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a weird sense of belonging<br />
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to myself.<br />
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small child, still wild, ever-allowed to make messy mistakes and infinite retakes.<br />
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all for the sake of feeling at home in myself.<br />
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i hold the wealth.<br />
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there's nowhere to go.<br />
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stay. there's a way to be strong and simple here.<br />
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there's a way to clear the need to be anything but free.<br />
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fall.<br />
fall.<br />
fall.<br />
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love calls me to my natural height.<br />
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tall.<br />
small.<br />
tall.<br />
small.<br />
tall.<br />
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<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-6456401999092639532013-12-24T07:00:00.000-05:002013-12-24T07:00:07.078-05:00through the love lens<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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i am neither<br />
one nor all<br />
but the strange<br />
falling motion of<br />
acknowledgment<br />
and now.<br />
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<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-10732270012453114712013-12-23T18:21:00.000-05:002013-12-24T00:55:05.076-05:00promises<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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weave a story<br />
with your strong hands<br />
in my wild hair<br />
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tell me something<br />
untrue<br />
and unbuttoning--<br />
drenched with wanting,<br />
elongated<br />
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i've mostly sworn myself off promising,<br />
but i promise<br />
i'll stay open to<br />
considering your sweet nothings<br />
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not that you're a liar,<br />
just that words<br />
are as impossible<br />
as love<br />
and i speak more in the language of<br />
labor and hands:<br />
grabbing hold<br />
clenching skin<br />
punching in<br />
time after time after time--<br />
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muscles so controlled<br />
they learn<br />
how to stitch<br />
and stay--<br />
or at least<br />
make falling away<br />
look graceful<br />
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i'm hungry, now<br />
with no energy to spare deliberating<br />
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i will feed myself<br />
until i become round and full of promise<br />
big enough<br />
to keep<br />
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<br />Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-61001646596467197552013-12-17T02:34:00.000-05:002013-12-23T22:20:33.233-05:00if you wanted to know my spirit<div style="background-color: white;">
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">if you wanted to know my spirit</span><br />
<span style="color: #222222; font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">i'd give you a jar and say:</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">mix all my paints with water</span></span><br />
<span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">turn me mud-brown, mutt-like</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">let no one know where i'm from by sight</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">call me a gorgeous indistinguishable everything</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">call me singing hallelujah off tune</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">call me just like you: special matter, transmuting </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">unable to untangle </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">all these pigments</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">and roots</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">hallelu</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">hallelu</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">hallelu</span><br />
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Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-12370749790353479652013-12-15T04:42:00.000-05:002013-12-15T04:56:37.840-05:00how do i remember?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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how do i remember candle light<br />
or things that move best in the dark--<br />
glowless with no one watching from a globe's-length away?<br />
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how do i remember ribs<br />
quiet breathing<br />
pressed into ribs<br />
and my hand not reaching for confirmation that i exist<br />
beyond this?<br />
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how do i remember being held--<br />
mother's touch like a slow rush of love<br />
across my brow?<br />
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how do i remember being happy being nothing?<br />
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nothing remembering nothing<br />
and the smell of wick<br />
come unlit<br />
smoke staining the air<br />
before it disappears<br />
the moment clears<br />
and temptation smears every corner of my mind<br />
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i can't hide from the glow even though<br />
i've locked myself out of my digital house<br />
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i still press my finger to the<br />
round-center-doorbell<br />
of everything<br />
waiting for something to answer<br />
like a mother, or a prayer<br />
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forgetting what it's like to go home to myself<br />
when no one's home<br />
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how do i remember to close?<br />
so i can remember to open?<br />
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the long ache of longing<br />
that snakes into belonging<br />
only when i hold it like a mother<br />
or a lover<br />
holds heaven under covers<br />
still and steady<br />
through the nightRachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-8516355251384526272013-12-09T00:51:00.002-05:002014-02-15T15:32:39.695-05:00rebirth update. <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14.44444465637207px; line-height: 17.98611068725586px; white-space: pre-wrap;">this rebirth business. it's like one heaving exhale at a time. roaring. sweating. in-the-zone insanity. thrilling. terrifying. electrifying. exhausting. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14.44444465637207px; line-height: 17.98611068725586px; white-space: pre-wrap;">i'm pretty sure something died. then something new shot through. (but declarations and words in general have me feeling quite uneasy these days.)</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14.44444465637207px; line-height: 17.98611068725586px; white-space: pre-wrap;">ps--i do love portland. so so much.</span>Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-32472567247246934032013-11-19T20:37:00.000-05:002013-11-24T02:04:17.619-05:00Spirit Road, Take Us Home: 100 Animal Card Readings to Usher in the New Year!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<li><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Each of these animals carries an innate and cultural wisdom. Profound truths that we each, at specific times in our lives, could benefit from hearing.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When we do a reading together, we fan the cards out upside-down and choose a handful that are meant for you in the moment.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The <i>meant for you</i> part is the magic part. </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I'm really good with magic. (Mega testimonies below!) </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I interpret the cards for you with love. And insight. And intuition. The kind that sends you honestly and quickly into your most profound next steps for a better you and a better world.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">A beautiful <b>photograph</b> of your spread, and PDFs with my own <b>interpretation</b> of the power of your </span><span class="il">animals, e-mailed to you after your reading.</span></span></li>
<li><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">An <b>outlook</b> <b>spread</b> on where you've been, where you're heading, your challenges and hidden strengths, and what you can trust deeply.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">One specific animal to carry with you as your most <b>trusted guide</b> for the year of 2014. </span> </span></li>
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<span style="background-color: white;">I could not feel more excited or ready to share the wisdom and transformational power of these animal medicines with you.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And because of that, I'm offering these readings for <b>$28 a piece.</b> <b>A magic number, 4 times over. </b>Buy one for yourself, or buy one for a friend or two... they'd make totally beautiful holiday gifts. You could be talking animal guides with your homies all year long! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;"><br class="Apple-interchange-newline" />Rachael is a woman with </span><b>great gifts of inner sight and intuition</b><span style="background-color: white;">. She clearly "knows" the </span><span class="il">cards</span><span style="background-color: white;">, and the </span><span class="il">cards</span><span style="background-color: white;"> know her. </span><b>Her readings shed an uncanny light on the spiritual journey, and clarify the inner landscape.</b><span style="background-color: white;"> Whether you're looking for guidance on beginning your own trek, or aid in refinding your way on the path, I can't recommend her highly enough. -Dave Williams</span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Rachael's animal readings are a centering force.</b> Before my reading, I remember my head swimming madly with thoughts, doubts, ideas, confusions, questions. <b>Pulling the cards and talking about them with Rachael was like a breath of fresh, clarifying air.</b> -Marion Boulicault</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>As a reader myself, I have a lot of respect and admiration for Rachael's skill, loving nature and the compassion with which she delivers her messages.</b> She has read for me numerous times, and after each experience I felt impressed and uplifted. <b>Not only were her readings spot-on accurate, they were delivered with humility and an attitude of respect that encouraged me open up to receive the guidance being offered.</b> During my readings with Rachael, I've found that she seems to be a master at helping me remember what I have forgotten about myself - or that which I might need to acknowledge. <b>I feel that she carries with her a depth of intuition and understanding of the spirit realms and a wholehearted, sincere devotion to her clients success. </b>For that I have much appreciation and gratitude. -Jenny Sammons, </span><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://jennysammons.wordpress.com/">http://jennysammons.wordpress.com/</a></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I've always loved card readings, but I had never had an Animal Card reading before I met with Rachael. <b>The experience was nothing less than magical</b>, and it had a profound affect on me. Because of the reading, <b>I took immediate action on issues I had been stuck on, which led to large positive changes in my life</b>. Rachael was the perfect guide to interpret the cards and gently direct me down the path I'd wanted to choose all along. -TW</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I've pulled cards for myself, but never had someone else read for me. Rachael's <b>radiant, gentle presence</b> in the world made me trust her to do so. Our reading began with her warm welcome, calm and comforting, opening a space that hummed with possibility and intention. She showed up, was wholly present for the process, allowing whatever might arise,<b> a kind guardian of what came, never getting in its way</b>. As she interpreted the wisdom of the cards, Rachael made the most compassionate offering, shining a light on obstacles and opportunities alike, <b>leaving me with a sense of clarity and peacefulness that has stayed with me.</b> I felt encouraged and empowered by the new insights, and am grateful for the ease and joy Rachael brought to the experience. -Jill Salahub</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Rachael’s intuitive process of choosing and interpreting animal medicine cards has convinced me of this powerful form of guidance. </b>Though I was somewhat familiar with the cards, and had consulted some of the various meanings, I had never had a full reading by someone versed in them thoroughly. Each time I have had a reading by Rachael, she has drawn a card or several cards that connect with the core of something I am addressing. But beyond being able to draw the needed card, she is also tapped into the energy of the card and how it is being manifested in me, or how I need to manifest the energy of the animal medicine in order to move forward.<b> I would highly recommend a card reading from Rachael to anyone open to connecting with a different way of knowing</b> through accessing the power of the animal cards under Rachael’s guidance. -Maya Story</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Within seconds of sitting with Rachael, <b>I felt safe and seen</b>. <b>Her <span class="il">reading</span> was completely aligned with where I was in my life</b>, what I was wondering about, and the messages I'd been receiving elsewhere. Rachael gave me glimpse into my soul and <b>illuminated just what I longed to see</b>. -Anna Oginsky, <a href="http://www.heartconnectedhub.com/" style="color: #1155cc;" target="_blank">www.heartconnectedhub.com</a></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When Rachael did an <span class="il">animal</span> card <span class="il">reading</span> for me, <b>I was wondering if I was pregnant or not. Strangely enough I drew the card for the Bear, which is a symbol of gestation and nurturing. </b> I really felt peace after that about whatever the outcome would be. She told me that even if I wasn't pregnant, that it could still be an indicator that I needed to nurture myself, and let some things gestate within me. She was very loving and really made me feel cared for. -</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Christina Carnoy, </span><span style="background-color: white; color: #1155cc; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.society6.com/inara77" style="color: #1155cc;" target="_blank">www.society6.com/inara77</a></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">This was my first time receiving an <span class="il">animal</span> card <span class="il">reading</span> and it was illuminating! <b>Rachael is a sculptor of words and a conduit for intuitive truths.</b> I will be applying my <span class="il">reading</span> (Dolphin & Frog - Breath & Water) as a new, more conscious daily practice, to my life. - Leah,</span><span style="background-color: white;"> </span><a href="http://photogram.ca/alifeserendipity" style="color: #1155cc;" target="_blank">http://photogram.ca/<wbr></wbr>alifeserendipity</a></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">At SoulSisters, I had an card <span class="il">reading</span> with Rachael whom I found to be intuitive and easy to connect with. Rachael's message was very much in alignment with what I needed to hear. Her insights encouraged me to turn inward and open up more to my spiritual self. <b>I've been feeling a hunger for a deeper spiritual connection and my <span class="il">reading</span> with Rachael confirmed that it's time to go to the next level of my growth. </b>She was right on! Did I mention how Rachael is absolutely adorable, playful, and warm hearted? -Trish</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I recently attended a Soul Sister Gathering this fall and I attended with an open heart and mind, not really knowing what to expect. </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Opening night there were many activities to welcome us and one of the most interesting was Rachael Maddox's </span><span class="il" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Animal</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Card </span><span class="il" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Reading.</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> We introduced ourselves and told a little about our desires for the weekend or even our lives. <b>I felt for not knowing me at all- her insight was profound.</b> I returned back to the hotel to create this image so I would not forget the experience. </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thanks, Rachael! -AJones</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Rachael's love for what she does shines through every part of her</b>. When she did a card <span class="il">reading</span> for me, it was with such love and kindness, especially when my immediate reaction was "Ugh, I was hoping for something really happy'. <b>She was able to help me see that simply shifting my perspective of how I hold certain things can be such an example of grace in my life. </b> I always enjoy working with women like Rachael who are strong and confident and show up with such tenderness and playfulness. - Michele V.</span><br />
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Rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01029966235006669969noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2010422650456973366.post-62143548395634274792013-11-18T17:55:00.004-05:002013-12-09T00:24:53.527-05:00Coming Out <iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="283" mozallowfullscreen="" src="//player.vimeo.com/video/79653227" webkitallowfullscreen="" width="500"></iframe> <br />
<a href="http://vimeo.com/79653227">Cosmic 25 by Rachael Maddox -- Chapter 2 : Coming Out</a> from <a href="http://vimeo.com/user2413432">Rachael Maddox</a> on <a href="https://vimeo.com/">Vimeo</a>.<br />
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